Re: [TANGO-L] Married Couples in the milongas: redux

[Ronda Patino <rondap@MINDSPRING.COM>]

Hi Ira,

When Manuel and I (married) went to B.A., we each wore our rings as always.
However, we were in a group of friends and I walked in with two other women
and he walked in with our male friend.  We sat with our friends, me with my
two female friends, he with the other male more or less on the other side of
the room.  What was great, is then he could catch my eye (cabeceo), we
danced and people could see our dance.  Later he could also dance with the
other women at our table thus showing that we all would dance with other
people and getting us all started dancing.  Similarly our male friend could
ask me to dance, etc, etc. He was actually the partner of one of the women.
This worked great!  I got to dance a lot and so did my friends as did Manuel
and Charles.  Enjoy!!

-----Original Message-----
From: Discussion of Any Aspect of the Argentine Tango
[mailto:TANGO-L@MITVMA.MIT.EDU] On Behalf Of Ira Goldstein
Sent: Sunday, February 05, 2006 11:51 AM
To: TANGO-L@MITVMA.MIT.EDU
Subject: [TANGO-L] Married Couples in the milongas: redux


  Does this mean that my wife & I should remove 
our rings & arrive separately at a milonga if we 
would like to dance with other people, out of 
respect for porteño "culture"? If I go to a 
milonga without my wife, will Argentine women 
dance with me if I have a wedding ring on, 
assuming that they somehow have adjudicated me to 
be dance-worthy at all?

Thanks,

--Ira




At 1:03 PM +0900 2/5/06, astrid wrote:
>  > In the Bay Area there are countless married couples who everyone 
> knows are
>>  married and they dance with other people.  They come together, they 
>> walk
>in
>>  together, and then most separate to find their favorite partners. 
>> There
>are
>>  others who come together and only dance with each other. Some dance
>together a
>>  bit, and then go off to find other partners.  THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN 
>> IN
>BUENOS
>>  AIRES, trust me.  The married couples stay together.
>>  Next point, in San Francisco, the married woman or man may greet 
>> their  friends. It doesn't matter who their friends are. They say 
>> hello.
>
>The men in BsAs also have a saying:"There is nothing more boring than 
>going to a milonga with your own wife."
>
>The reason, nobody greets them when they come in with a partner is A) 
>because the partner may be someone other than their wife, and you are 
>supposed to politely ignore this or B) it is really their wife who is 
>not supposed to know that they have been there all week without her.
>
>Astrid