Re: [TANGO-L] Close Embrace All the Time People

[Derik Rawson <rawsonweb@YAHOO.COM>]

Dear Trini, I understand what you are saying andI I
agree with you 100 percent. In Argentine Tango one
tries to adapt and comunicate... be the best one can
be for a partner, not try to control him or her. Derik
--- TANGO-L@MITVMA.MIT.EDU <patangos@YAHOO.COM> wrote:
> Hi all!
>
> First, thanks to everyone for sharing their thoughts
> on the molinete and bringing up so many different
> aspects.  I want to experiment a bit further before
I
> comment on that thread.
>
> But heres an easy thread to which to respond.  From
> Derik:
> "My view is that tango is primarily a social dance
and
> one should be able to dance immediately with
'anyone'
> who walks in the room."
>
> As I have explored the different styles and worked
on
> musicality, I have come to really appreciate the
> honesty my dance partners have shared with me.  By
> that, I mean, their being authentic to themselves,
to
> their tastes, to their preferences in music and
> movement.  When my partners are honest with
themselves
> and with me, we have a more meaningful conversation.
> So a gancho means more than just a gancho  its
> becomes a means for intimacy (not sex, but
intimacy).
>
>
> I first noticed this last year when a gentleman who
> greatly preferred salon to milonguero asked me to
> dance at a milonga.  Rather than dance salon,
however,
> he danced milonguero style since he knew that was my
> preferred style.  I thought it was so sweet of him,
> especially in the 10 years that I have known him, I
> never even knew that he studied any milonguero (he
> lives in another city).
>
> Although I really appreciated his efforts, I
couldn't
> help but feel that he wasn't free to be who he was,
to
> share his own feelings in the dance.  Because of
that
> I felt a little trapped myself.  We still had an
> enjoyable dance, but I would have liked to have
given
> him a "wow" dance, not just a "nice" dance.
>
> Since then, I have tried harder to help my partner
> dance as true to himself/herself as much as
possible.
> My joy from tango comes from learning about my
partner
> and sharing an honest conversation.  Which means
that
> if a persons only way of conversing with me is
> open-embrace, then we dance open.  If his/her only
way
> is in close, then we dance close.  And who knows, I
> just might learn something.
>
> The converse of that is that if I am not able to
give
> my partner a meaningful dance, then it is better
that
> I dont dance with them.  That is simply because I
do
> not want to give them a bad dance and I never want
to
> resent dancing with them.
>
> A few thoughts,
> Trini de Pittsburgh
>
>
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> Our Mission: To make Argentine Tango Pittsburgh's
most popular social dance.
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>
>
>
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