Re: [TANGO-L] The Argentines, the inventors of "No.."

["Trini y Sean (PATangoS)" <patangos @YAHOO.COM>]

There is a difference in asking a person to change
their behavior (and their accepting the change) and
imposing a change on their behavior.  Sorta' like the
issue of teaching on the dance floor.

For example, at a milonga a couple of months ago, I
was aghast that several of my beginning students, in
their excitement to learn, had coaxed several
experienced dancers into teaching them on the dance
floor.  It was teaching at an unacceptable level for
me, and the experienced dancers really should have
known better.  After some re-education went out to
everyone, the problem stopped.   Those who had the
problem accepted the change.

At a milonga a few weeks ago, a friend of mine
recounted how one guy tried to teach her on the dance
floor (the guy couldn't lead the step correctly and
she knew it).  She left him when the song ended.  This
is an example of him trying to impose a behavior on
her - which she didn't get an SM kick out of, I am
pretty sure.

Bottom line is that tango includes choices, and there
is nothing wrong with asking for a change in behavior.
 That is how we all learn tango, anyway.  But if the
requested change doesn't occur, then it is up to the
requestee to decide whether to continue dancing with
that person or not.

Trini de Pittsburgh

--- Lucia <curvasreales  @YAHOO.COM.AR> wrote:

> Unless you get a SM kick out of it, why dance with
> someone who makes you hate his/her behaviour? Or
> even
> worse on top of it, have a "superior" white European
> woman teach manners to stranger Japanese men on the
> dance floor.....
>
> Lucia


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