Re: [TANGO-L] Being on axis in all styles

[Michael <tangomaniac @CAVTEL.NET>]

Congratulations Marisa on discovering the power of tango. The power comes
from acceptance. Some dancers try to change the other partner by giving
instruction that is usually 1) not solicited and 2) usualy incorrect.
Acceptance is not trying to change the partner. If possible, you adjust to
your partner (without sacrificing frame, axis, posture, nor balance.)

Everybody is looking for something different. Some are looking for
relationships off the dance floor; some only want to dance with certain
dancers because they want to be seen dancing with "stars," or the other
person meets personal criteria for appearance. For some, the dance is
about "me" instead of "us."

I went to Ft. Lauderdale, FL over the weekend and danced with a fantastic
dancer from New York. Of course, she travels 1300 miles and I travel 1100
miles. (I'm not going to print her name because I don't want to take a
chance of embarassing her.) I danced close embrace. She danced closer
embrace!! I didn't know closer embrace existed. She put her right hand on
my neck and just pulled me even closer. I thought my heart was going to
explode. Figures meant NOTHING!! Just being together, nothing to prove to
the other. After each dance, my eyes were closed because I was in a tango
trance. When I came out of the trance, she looked at me and asked "Are you
OK?" I said N-O-O-O-O!! It's a good thing I pay extra for tango coverage
on my health plan. I thought I was going to need a defibrilator. We just
melted. I could tell she was better than me, but then it wasn't a
competition. It was just two dancers enjoying the music and the moment.

I hope I can find her because I'm leaving for New York tomorrow for 5
nights. It can be cold outside. Tango generates its own heat.

Michael Ditkoff
Hoping for early dismissal and early train to New York tomorrow



Marisa wrote:
>
..I was just thinking ...about a workshop I took with Howlin and Winkler.
Being in their embrace, or having them in > mine, was an extraordinary
experience. In  addition, I would like to say that both of them were >
very respectful I felt like they accepted me for the way I dance > right
now, .. no hint that > anything I'm missing is something they would have
> expected.
>
> Marisa