Re: [TANGO-L] Beginners on the Dancefloor and "teaching"

[Simona G <simona_tango @YAHOO.CA>]

Hi all,

I think part of my previous message was mis-understood by some, I'll just take a minute to clarify.

I wrote:

"For me to really enjoy the dance, the first seconds should be there to try to connect with each other. I would prefer the leader just to be present and make me feel that he really desires to dance with me - smile, look me in the eyes, take some time to adjust the embrace and let me breath, relax and open up to the music."

and got the following feed-back:

> Being a man, I tend to think in terms of tangible
> instructions rather than
> feelings.  All nonverbal cues and emotions for my
> first dance will be
> tempered by the fact that I don't even know her name
> yet.   I am not going to
> look lovingly into someone's eyes - but I do want to
> dance.

Sorry, but I think you got me wrong. I don't think the word "lovingly" appeared anywhere in my message. Looking  in your partner's eyes before the dance is simply a way of making sure that you and your partner are going to be 100% PRESENT during that dance, not only physically (obviously, your body is there), but mentally and emotionally aswell. Otherwise, the dance is just a sequence of steps.
The only emotion "required" (or wished for, and this is only my personal point of view) is that of wanting to share this dance WITH YOUR PARTNER, not just to dance, with anybody. Knowing your partner's name or any other confuse  "business" of attraction is completely irrelevant, as far as I'm concerned.

Simona





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