Re: [TANGO-L] Reluctance to dance milonga.

[Petra Starmans <petra.starmans @BEFREE.CH>]

Hi out there

Many interesting sentiments passed here. Don't say you should not have
put up this thread, Rick.. I enjoy it..

I would like to add some remarks I heard around me, by men leaders:
- it is so difficult to guide, these (bloody) women just keep running
away from me all the time, you cannot control them and they do not
listen to you anymore
- i don't like that hipswaying stuff, i feel ridiculous / feminine
(even gay!) which I do not want to feel like
- there are so many people around who dance it badly, i do not want to
be another one of those inaesthetic ones..

Maybe because of the above, maybe because of many of the things said
here before, I do feel like in my surroundings there are much more men
than women not liking milonga.
And the men who really like it have a tendency to become sort of
locomotive fanatics terrorizing the floor...

It takes much time to master the more upbeat energy into movements
which still translates into the floor and not only across...  the
emotion is different, but danced in a playful way, with skill,
it can also be very connecting and not-shallow in my opinion.

Maybe for a woman, it feels like a little less 'patience' is required,
I feel it to be a bit less following and more acting (so the first
remark of the men leaders might be just right ;-) )

I like it a lot, the feeling connected between fun, exhilaration,
flirting and just emptying the brain by only being movement..
and yes, I still prefer tango, by the way ;-)

Petra