Re: [TANGO-L] Tango - gender - sexroles

[Antonio Cervila Junior <junior @CERVILA.COM>]

Here comes again. The untalkable "theme".
I will not talk about my university degrees beside my dancer career, but as
I could understand in your e-mail, the european tangueros are more
intelectual than sexual. And in Argentina, the opposite.
Interest, but I rather be an ignorant then.
Maybe some intelectual people forget their feeling about sex when they live
thing about work, money, mortgage, money, business, money, bla bla bla.
In your questionnaire you said: 71,1 % of the questioned people do renounce
the possibility of finding a
partner in the tango contect. So, what is the reason that most of German
people start dancing tango?
And for me, sexuality is not (as you say in your e-mail) the possibilities
to find a partner for bed or life. It is beyond that.

Thanks

 Junior





----- Original Message -----
From: "Melina Sedo" <melinasedo @onlinehome.de>
To: <TANGO-L @MITVMA.MIT.EDU>
Sent: Saturday, October 18, 2003 6:08 AM
Subject: [TANGO-L] Tango - gender - sexroles


> Hi all,
>
> Sergio wrote:
> "There are cultures where to talk about sex or body functions, or the
> use of
> certain words make people very uncomfortable such as in the USA.
>  There are other cultures where conversation on those subjects is
> socially
> acceptable and discussion is done routinarily in proper form.
>     This was obvious recently when Antonio Cervila Jr. attempted to
> discuss
> sex , psychoanalysis and tango. He was not only misunderstood but also
> ridiculed and attacked.  I personally think that sex, gender role,
> psychoanalysis and tango could be extremely interesting subjects."
>
> Well, you're right.
> Refering to sex in the context of Tango is thought to be vulgar. Even
> mentioning that in Tango (like any other field where people meet) there
> may be possibilities to find a partner for bed or life does seem to be a
> sacrileg to this highly intellectual and spiritual dance.
>
> I wrote my psychological dissertation about "Sex roles in Argentine
> Tango".
> Therefore I developed a questionnaire which was distributed all over
> Germany containing questions about the ideal tango dancer (male or
> female), the tango etiquette and the numerous reasons why people dance
> tango... (In addition to that in contained a german version of Bem's
> sex-role-inventory.)
> And guess what: Altough in Germany a lot of singles are dancing tango
> (in my poll: 100 of 170) the connection between Tango, sexuality and
> finding a partner is not a strong one:
> 71,1 % of the questioned people do renounce the possibility of finding a
> partner in the tango contect.
> But: For 41,2 % Tango also means passion and erotics. May this be only
> the passion of the Tango shows?
>
> Funny, funny: there are this places where you get in a real close
> contact to sexual compatible people, where erotic experiences can be
> made. But: do not dare mentioning to a men or woman that you are
> interested to share this intimacy in bed! No one will dance with you any
> longer! ;-)
>
> Women coming from holidays in Buenos Aires often mention the frequency
> of men trying to get friendly to them and one of the most important
> themes in argentine Milongas seems to be the relations between men and
> women. And: Tango lyrics mostly refer to men and women! But we
> non-argentine only speak of tango!  ;-)
>
> Cultural differences? Social differences?
> In Europe, USA and other non-argentine places tangueros and tangueras
> seem to be mostly people with high school or university degree. In my
> poll 136 of 170 tangueros had high school and 125 of them university
> degree..
> Well, most of the argentine tango-dancers coming to teach in Europe and
> the milongueros in Buenos Aires are no university graduates. And their
> approach to Tango and sexuality seems to be a little more relaxed than
> ours, does it not?
>
> Will I be tared and feathered now???  ;-)))
>
> Melina
>
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