Re: [TANGO-L] Rejections

["Frank G. Williams" <frankw @MAIL.AHC.UMN.EDU>]

Bibi has written:

> Yesterday I was approached by a persistent friend, after I declined by
> saying, "The next one, ok?", I was then being questioned, "Why?" I had my
> genuine reason (promised somebody else beforehand) but had I not know him
> as a friend, I almost wanted to take the 5th......

It sounds that you were gracious, as usual.  Naturally, all manner of
situations can develop among acquaintances, and the solutions are all
unique.  My comment was meant to say that not *feeling inspired* is a
perfectly good reason to decline a dance.  You can soften up what you say
with a little creativity, but it is a matter of respect to not lie about it.
Dancing without inspiration is pointless.  I know many people who would
rather sit than simply go kinetic (much less struggle) on the floor.  They
are waiting, by choice, for the RIGHT music and partner to say with their
bodies what needs to be said.  

I sometimes arrange with friends well in advance to find each other on the
next tanda of a particular music (e.g., vals), whenever it happens to be
played.  It leaves less to chance.

> For instance, you bet that I will hunt you down next time with a
> specific waltz.  I would be very sympathetic to any lovely gentlemen
> getting in the way unawaringly, but my answer to them, regretfully, 
> would still be a no ... :-)

Hunting not necessary, BB - your reservation is welcome!  ;-)

Cheers, all!

Frank - Mpls.