Re: [TANGO-L] Tango and rudeness

["Frank G. Williams" <frankw @mail.ahc.umn.edu>]

...just killing a minute and amused by:

Stephen Brown, who wrote:

> When you combine these three elements: frustration, intensity and
> intimacy...  look out!  The result can be explosive.

Oh how true!

Regarding the element of frustration, I think that many people are
attracted to tango for it's appearance - of sophistication and artistic
depth.  A dancer's wish to be accepted and invited by those who *appear*
to have that sophistication and depth can lead them into real personal
compromise.  IMHO, 'tango society' has a value system that is strikingly
like that of Junior High!  Who among us would volunteer to go through
THAT again?!   Yet, there we are (probably) amid egos and cliques and
loose tongues only to find out that tango can't give us anything that we
don't already have.  Our personal needs notwithstanding, we must define
tango for ourselves.  Thus, rude people = rude tango dancers with a thin
edifice of sophistication and artistic depth!  ;-)

I refer those who may be stressed by tango to a poem by Mary Oliver
entitled 'Wild Geese'.  ...lots of great metaphors for 'tango life'.

web link to the poem "Wild Geese':
http://www.rjgeib.com/thoughts/geese/geese.html


All the best,

Frank in Minneapolis
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