Re: [TANGO-L] Inside a Beginner Man's Mind

[Elemer Dubrovay <dubrovay @JUNO.COM>]

A friend of mine wrote me this interesting note about the problem with
the beginners.

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Elemer,

Not too clearly stated but an inkling of what is meant.

Usually beginner men lead heavily when all they need to do is shift their

weight. Also they need to understand what a frame is and not wiggle their

hips or sway their shoulders so their frame remains stable. Everything
depends on the squareness of the frame and the shifting of the weight. I
think that's all there is.

Most men don't hold a woman firmly enough. They are ambivalent, unsure of

their lead, so expect the woman to sort of accommodate but then they
complain
she is not waiting to be lead.  it's a very fine line all along and takes

lots and lots of practice. No hurry, please.

Helen
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Elemer from Redmond

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On Sun, 5 Jan 2003 18:36:27 -0500 Michael B Ditkoff
<tangomaniac @JUNO.COM> writes:

> I've read a lot of mail about poor leading, defined as wet noodle and
> not
> clear.
> I'm NOT going to defend but try to explain what goes on inside a
> beginner
>
> man's head when he starts taking tango lessons. I'm not an expert
> but
> I WAS a beginner leader.
>
> What might be obvious to teachers and followers is NOT
> necessarily obvious to beginner men.
>
> First, as a slight digression, women are like tops. They come in
> all
> sizes,
> large, small, round, square, etc. But all tops have something in
> common.