Re: [TANGO-L] "Like they mean it..."

[Linda Allred <lindallred @earthlink.net>]

On Jan 2, Frank Williams wrote:

> Whoa there!  Don't confuse a strong lead for a good lead!  A follower who
is musical and expressive will not appreciate being clamped into a frame.

This is in reply to Luda's comment:

 I just despair over dancing with wet noodle
> leads. It feels like dancing with men who don't have
> any backbone, so they can hold on to a woman like they mean it.

Frank, you have obviously not done lots of following.  The "wet noodle"
syndrome is prevalent, and is indeed distressing to dance with.  What Luda
is referring to is not to be confused with strong vs. good leading.  It is
with presence of body and intent during the lead, of clarity and purpose
while leading.  Limp arms, indecision, and lack of intent are a big problem
with many leaders.  The experience of dancing with a man who has a solid
frame and who is not afraid to lead with the torso and with clarity and
decision is wonderful.  I agree with Luda that it feels like "they can hold
on to a woman like they mean it."  If you are going to lead, then do it with
decision!  Don't be a wimp!

Linda