Re: [TANGO-L] Community Growth: Harmful unsolicited "teaching" & sexual advances

[Trini or Sean - PATangoS <patangos @YAHOO.COM>]

At our events, the solution is fairly simple.  Predators are not
welcome to our events.  If someone has offended someone, the person
offended usually tells me (the organizer).  I have a chat with the
offender and watch for behavioral changes.  If the changes don't
occur, the person can be told not to come back.  Fortunately, we've
only had to bar one person, and the chats tend to work.

This can sometimes be a hard call for an organizer to make because
one wants to be fair.  If I get the same complaint from multiple
sources, that tells me something.  We also make a distinction between
someone who is predatory versus someone who lacks social skills and
needs training.

My suggestion is to let the people in charge know (not just the
regulars).  A word from an authority figure could be enough to change
the offender's behavior.  We have a small community, but I don't see
why this wouldn't work as communities grow.

Hope that helps and happy holidays!
Trini

--- Bugs Bunny <bugsbunny1959 @HOTMAIL.COM> wrote:
> In my opinion, ignoring a predatory individual does nothing.
> Putting the
> onus on women (esp. if they are vulnerable beginners & often quite
> young),
> alone, to deal with this isn't the right answer either.  Especially
> if most
> of the experienced regulars know about this.
> I think every situation is probably unique, depending on the people
> involved
> & how its handled. I started this branch of the thread to get some
> ideas.
>
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