[TANGO-L] Men asking women, etc

[Andrew Allison <Andrew @AALLISON.COM>]

As a newcomer to tango (4 months), I've been reading the subject thread
with interest and would like to offer a couple  of comments. Having had the
privilege of being invited to dance by three different ladies at a milonga
last Sunday, I would ask those who argue for the traditional approach why
we can't simply apply "When in Rome . . . ." and adopt an etiquette
appropriate to the locale. Let's also keep in mind that everybody was a
beginner at some time -- surely it's not too much to ask of a good dancer
that they give a beginner a couple of dances. Even in Buenos Aires I found
most of the followers willing to extend this courtesy -- facilitated by
waiting for the last two dances of a tanda. And, of course, if the
objective is to get more leaders, encouragement will work better than
punishment. Regards, Andrew