Re: Female Leaders

[Ingrid Peterson <georgous1 @HOTMAIL.COM>]

Manuel Patino <white95r @HOTMAIL.COM> wrote that he feels as though women
have nothing to learn from leading- with relation to following better.
Hmmm. . . I would, of course, have to disagree with that.  Honestly, I
beleive that most of what you said in your last email was quite vague and
already assumed by most people who dance tango.

Of course there are circumstances where I would NEVER lead another woman
around the dance floor, I understand that there are some traditions that are
much bigger than I can imagine, and I respect them.  I just think that women
shouldn`t have to deal with male macho jerks frothing at the mouth demeaning
the experience of learning to lead.   God knows they don`t get it when they
learn to dance with other men.  It`s a double standard and it sucks!

There is a saying that goes, don`t let one rotton apple spoil the entire
basket.  And that is what I apply to women leads and male follows.  Of
course, not every dancer is at the same level . . . of course, I like to
dance with some of my female friends who lead because they are BETTER at it
than a lot of men I know.  The same applies to men that I know who follow.
It shouldn`t be a matter of sex when you are just trying to dance. . .

I want you all to know the reasons why I lead.  First, and foremost, my
teacher insisted that women learned to lead and that men learned to follow.
Of course, not all women and men liked the idea, but I feel as though these
students have a better understanding of the dance that we call tango.
Secondly, I love to dance.  I don`t care if I`m leading, following, frickin`
dancing by myself in the corner, as long as I can dance.  I`m tired of
having to wait for some guy to come over and ask me to dance!  Too much time
is spent warming up the bloody seats by women at milongas. . . men, how many
of you would like to go to a milonga only to find out that before 99% of the
women actually get around to asking you to dance is only after one soul is
brave enough to ask you to dance and show off your skills. . .but it isn`t
until people have seen that you actually can dance, will they take the
chance to ask you to dance???  Welcome to what women do every bloody day all
around the world.  I got fed up, so I dance to dance. . . man, woman, alien,
I don`t care!!

I just won`t stand for the bloody abuse that we women get for standing up
for ourselves!

Ingrid.


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