Re: Centering the Follower?

[Huck Kennedy <huck @eninet.eas.asu.edu>]

Michael B Ditkoff writes:
> Clifton Chow asked (paraphrased):
> > What can leaders do to help women get in a "kind of Zen state."
>
> To me, the answer is put the woman at ease. When a woman tells me she's a
> beginner, I can feel a tight frame. To put her at ease, I tell her that
> dancing tango is not a competition between the partners.
>
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>
> My usual remark to a woman who apologizes for following poorly is "When I
> lead better, you'll dance better."

     That's all fine and dandy, Michael, but handling the situation of
dancing with a woman who is a bit insecure and apologetic about her
dancing is not very difficult.

     Now, if you've got something to suggest about handling the much more
challenging situation of dancing with a woman who thinks she knows it all
and has the attitude to prove it, why, that might be a bit more useful.

Huck