Re: Men following (was impressing women)

[astrid <astrid @RUBY.PLALA.OR.JP>]

Steve wrote:
I must say
that I do not agree that a man must be lazy or selfish if he does not try
to impress his partner.
  I think there is a much greater range of shared expression
> available in tango than impressing one's partner.
>
> As I recall, Larry once wrote that tango is a Rohrshack test.
>

Well, and as I recall , Larry wrote that for him, impressing his partner
means, showing her that she can dance, and then he went on to explain all
the little things a man can do to tune into a woman's way to move to make
the dance go more smoothly. Dressing that up as "impressing" was in my
opinion just a word game. A man who does not bother to do any of those
things and just starts dancing without regard to the woman's individual
qualities, is, well, not exactly lazy, but definitely not a good dancer.
Then Larry went on to explain, that the payoff for all this care is the
woman's gratitude for him giving her a good time. Again, what would you call
a man who is not ready to make an effort to give a woman a good time ?
This weekend I went to a workshop with Jorge Torres, and he picked a total
beginner from the group and made her dance with him. Very slowly, very
gently, occasionally stroking her hair and telling her that there was no
need to be nervous. Then he explained that it is the man's responsibility to
go down to the woman's level of dancing, if she has less experience than
him, because this is the only way to make it work.

Astrid