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There are 10 messages totalling 407 lines in this issue. Topics of the day: 1. buying dancers and the spirit of the milonga 2. Tango Violinists 3. gomina 4. How To Accompany Argentine Tango On Guitar - Workshop! 5. Simpsons/Siberiade 6. Calling Argentina - cheaply 7. Milonga codes (re)considered 8. Rejections 9. Eva's rejection. 10. The right attitude


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Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 10:30:29 -0400 From: Nitin Kibe <nkibe @WORLDBANK.ORG> Subject: Re: buying dancers and the spirit of the milonga Very interesting comments and observations and despite the differences in opinion, quite civil too (at least so far!). Thanks to all. A comment: while "lookism" rears its head again, more for women than for men, isn't it one of the paradoxes of tango that, particularly in milonguero style, one does not or cannot even see one's partner during the dance? True, some (narcissists?) check their reflections in the mirrors, but even this momentary shift of attention from the dance and one's partner can be easily sensed by the other. Good wishes. Nitin Kibe


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 10:12:02 -0700 From: Mark Celaya <mark-joan-tango @JUNO.COM> Subject: Re: Tango Violinists To Robert & all who are interested in "Violin Tango", Another great tango CD with violins (& only violins) is called: ~LOS VIOLINES DE ORO DEL TANGO (Francini y Stamponi) - "Concierto en la Luna". This CD contains 14 beautiful versions of well known tangos (11), milongas (2), & vals (1): Concierto en la Luna, LaTablada, El Entrerriano, Taquito Militar, Chique, Inspiracion, El Huracan, Derecho Viejo, Vida Mia, El Choclo, Corazon de Oro, Orgullo Criollo, El Esquinazo, Alma de Bohemio. POLYDOR 533993-2 ~ 1997 Regards, Mark Celaya http://home.att.net/~mark-joan-tango ________________________________________________________________ YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET! Juno now offers FREE Internet Access! Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj.


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 13:01:30 -0500 From: "kata @pitton.com" <kata @PITTON.COM> Subject: gomina A while back people were talking about gomina and how to get the right look for their hair. I'm not sure how important that is, but anyway, I saw a advertorial in Latina magazine of a new type of gomina from the Matrix "Via Dezign" line. Now I can't find the magazine and I don't remember the name. It's one of the products listed under "styling" at http://www.matrixbeautiful.com/behind/products/viadezign/index.html . Latina said it's not sticky. Matrix products, which in general are pretty good and mid-priced, are sold in most beauty shops and some beauty supply outlets. Hope this info helps somebody. saludos, Kate


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 12:19:56 -0600 From: Daniel Diaz <dan @INTELLINKS.COM> Subject: How To Accompany Argentine Tango On Guitar - Workshop! The Rio Plata Institute is presenting an Argentine tango guitar worshop: "How To Accompany Argentine Tango On Guitar" May 17 and 18, in Denver, CO May 24 and 25, in Palo Alto, CA (Stanford) The series of seminars will cover tango, valses and milongas. Critical strumming techniques, bass lines, regular and symcopated styles, etc. The workshop will be taught by extraordinaire Argentine guitarrist Victor Sanchez. A natural and intuitive musician, he played guitar since his childhood and has accompanied famous musicians from all over the world. For more information check our web site: http://www.intellinks.com/rioplata/calendar.htm or http://www.intellinks.com/rioplata/workshop.htm This is an unique opportunity for attendees to not only learn how to play Argentine tango but, once to master the techniques necessary to become a guitar accompanist for performances with musicians who wish to present Argentine tango music. Typical groups are bandoneon, guitar and double bass; piano, guitar and double bass; violin and guitar, etc.. Flute, clarinet and oboe have been used as lead instruments also. Please let us now of your interest and/or pass this information to your guitarist friend. Thank you Daniel Diaz - Phone (801)420-3179 The Rio Plata Institute mailto:dan @intellinks.com Web Site: http://www.intellinks.com/rioplata P.S.: For workshops on other instruments, please check our web pages above and or send an e-mail. We are preparing a Basic Argentine Tango Musicality workshop for all musicians and instruments as an introduction to future advanced seminars and workshop for specific instruments.


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 14:24:58 EDT From: Shirley Kwan <SKisaichi @AOL.COM> Subject: Simpsons/Siberiade Hi -- Did anyone catch THE SIMPSONS episode on U.S. TV last night in which Lisa watches her doppelganger (a librarian) in a movie dancing a divine "Tango de la Muerte" and resolves to take dance lessons...only to be pushed into...tap, not tango. Perhaps tango IS taking its place in popular culture. If I'd seen that episode when I was younger, I would have taken up tango earlier and my life would have been much improved, I'm sure...re-runs, anyone? Also, was watching Konchalevsky's immortal movie "Siberiade"--the film equivalent of the Great Russian Novel. One section/substory is about a young boy who returns to his boyhood town, the young girl he encounters and who waits for him for six years after he goes off to war. Many years later, they meet again. A tango is woven throughout the entire episode and evokes everything that tango can evoke: love, loss, youth and middle age, nostalgia, family, tribe, era, end of love, affirmation of all that and starting anew from nothing, here and far away. Mythical, mystical, beyond time and yet confined within the meters of a single song. Breathtaking. Watching it is to understand what it might be like to dance with many people simultaneously, intimately. Yours, Shirley Kwan


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 16:49:08 -0600 From: Dave Schmitz <dschmitz @MAGELLAN.TEQ.STORTEK.COM> Subject: Calling Argentina - cheaply Dear list-people, I had foreign guests (from Europe) in my house back in March. One of them used my phone to call home. At $2.30 per minute, it was quite an expensive call, even for just four minutes. Since then, I've found a much cheaper way to call, both to my guests' country and to Argentina. The above call would have been 30 cents per minute instead of 230 cents per minute! NOTE: I have no connection with Sam's Club nor with AT&T. Sam's Club now sells AT&T Prepaid Phone Cards for 5.9 cents per domestic (USA to USA) minute. The rate from USA to Argentina is 5:1 ratio, so 30 cents per minute, from Argentina to USA is 9:1 ratio, so 54 cents per minute. These ratios are subject to change. Cards are available for 350 or 1000 domestic minutes (70 or 200 minutes to Argentina), and may be re-charged with a credit card for the same per-minute price. The Card may also be used from other countries to call Argentina, but I have no information on rates. For those rates, you might call the AT&T Customer Service number, 1-888-854-6740 (USA). AT&T also sells these cards from their web site, but the price is a lot higher than from Sam's Club. If anyone can beat these rates, please let us all know. Dave Schmitz Denver, Colorado


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 19:08:36 -0400 From: Robinne Gray <rlg2 @CORNELL.EDU> Subject: Milonga codes (re)considered I've been following the discussion about "rebellion of the B.A. milonga codes" with interest for two reasons: first to gather practical information on what I might expect on that someday trip to Buenos Aires, and second because I'm interested in what the codes (and related brewing rebellion) suggest about gender, power, and culture. For a few years now I've been speaking with tangueras about their experiences at the Argentine milongas, and reading threads discussing the same, and it's interesting (to me, anyway) to note the different facets of the milonga experience that are highlighted and to try and create a composite image from them. When I first began to learn tango, I recall hearing a lot of the positive stories--women and men going off to BsAs and having the most incredible-ecstatic-orgasmic dance experiences of their lives. Women who pull up all roots in order to move to BsAs, some even changing their names. Women who hook up with handsome young Argentines who rock their world. Women describing their enjoyment of gendered social codes that harken back to another era where women were "treated like ladies," "taken care of" etc. This latter view was restated in a Tango-L thread of a few months ago--I particularly remember Srmana writing that kissing, seducing, undressing and other things are "not as elegant if you reverse the roles." (And this from a Smith graduate! ;-) That is a point worth some vigorous debate, but not here... When I began to hear more direct first-person accounts from women I got intimations of ambivalence, if not outright discontent, about their experiences in the milongas. One woman stayed a month and "clawed [her] way up through the practica system;" a few days ago someone described her experience as "very mixed--sometimes I only danced once in a night, sometimes I danced 'til 4am, but I had no control over any of it, and no one told me about how often you encounter the expectation of sexual favors." Women who arrived, with great anticipation and at not insubstantial expense, to sit all night or to be dogged by creeps. Here is the less-than-enticing picture that has emerged from various accounts: If you go alone (or with a group of women friends) no one will ask you to dance except cheesy guys on the make, whom one is supposed to turn down. BUT If you go with a partner, no one will ask you to dance because you're with a man. AND If you go with a tour so you have some familiarity and support the locals look upon you as a crass tourist and avoid you as if you had leprosy AND Even if you demonstrate your good taste by fending off the undesirables, the good milongueros still won't ask you because they don't know if you're good enough and won't take a chance on you UNLESS OF COURSE you're wearing a see-through top or micro-mini. Even for the reasonably young, attractive, and talented, I'm hearing a Catch-22. It's reminiscent of the old adage about employment: no one will hire you without experience, but how will you ever get experience if no one will hire you? The good tangueros won't ask you unless you're proven yourself--but how can you strut your stuff if the only partners who will ask you are the bad/mediocre ones? And today I'm reading that the independent woman's best option to ensure her enjoyment of the milongas is to hire a dance gigolo???!! This much I know for certain: It'll be a cold day in hell before I pay a man to dance with me. I've appreciated Janis' posts providing information that is intended to be helpful; problem is, the overall picture that emerges can fill one with trepidation. I was grateful to Naomi for suggesting that codes aren't handed down in stone like the Ten Commandments but can be "bent to fit the occasion." And I liked Norma's sensible suggestions re: introducing oneself to the host and staying at locations where one will meet fellow visitors. This, to me, sounds more like most human reality than the purist dictum that all is black-and-white and non-negotiable. Would enjoy hearing more from others. --Robinne Ithaca, NY


Date: Thu, 4 May 2000 23:34:50 -0700 From: Linda Valentino <LindaValentino @PRODIGY.NET> Subject: Rejections Regarding the latest discussion of rejections, Eva hit a nerve with me when she mentioned that she had asked a teacher to dance and been rejected. I don't know if the man she asked was her teacher, another local teacher or a visiting teacher, but this is a subject that needs some education. I frequently host visiting teachers from Argentina. Inevitably, when I take my guests to the local milongas, the men are set upon by numerous women who ask them to dance. These are almost always women who won't spend any money to attend the classes these teachers are giving, but they think they are entitled to "demand" a dance. This always strikes me as colossal nerve! This just happened here last weekend. One woman in particular, who did not attend any of Julio Balmaceda and Corina De La Rosa's classes, followed Julio around at one milonga and repeatedly asked him to dance. He politely and repeatedly declined. The next night the same woman repeated this behavior at another milonga. Julio again declined. I wish I could say that this behavior was unusual, but it isn't. There are numerous women here who don't seem to realize that they are being incredibly rude. They apparently think that it's some kind of a thrill for these professionals to dance with them, and most of them (of course) are not good dancers. The feedback that I get from the many visiting professionals I have hosted over the past eight years is that they are very offended by this behavior. First, they still abide by the Buenos Aires codigos that dictate that the men do the asking, and they don't like women asking them. Second, they feel no obligation whatsoever to dance with people who don't support their presence in the community by coming to their classes. When they are teaching in a community and go to the local milongas, they either want to dance with students who are supporting them (good business), or for their own enjoyment by dancing with friends or with their own partners. Personally, I never even ask the teachers I am hosting, many of whom have become close friends of mine over the years. I figure that if they want to dance with me they will do the asking. And I never, ever ask a teacher--either local or visiting--from whom I have never taken classes. Hello!!!!! That's just rude. It's like saying to them, "You're good enough for me to want to dance with you, but you're not good enough for me to spend any money on your classes." Why is it that so often when people go out to dance tango, they seem to check their common sense at the door?


Date: Wed, 3 May 2000 11:06:06 -0400 From: Steve Doster <sdoster @SHAWNEE.EDU> Subject: Re: Eva's rejection. Deborah, you responded to Eva, who wrote an email to this list regarding rejection in dancing. 5/1/00, reducing the "rejection rate." After a hiatus of 30 years I'm beginning to relearn the Tango and thought my major obstacles would be learning the steps, keeping time to the music and finding a dance partner (not easy in a small Kentucky town on the banks of the Ohio River). Thanks for reminding me of the related social skills necessary for making the evening pleasant for those ladies I ask to dance, as well as those ladies who choose to ask me. Steve > -----------------------------------------------------------------------


Date: Mon, 8 May 2000 21:28:30 -0300 From: Janis Kenyon <jantango @FEEDBACK.NET.AR> Subject: The right attitude Ladies on the List, I am neither young nor beautiful, but I dance with the men who are the best dancers in the milongas of Buenos Aires. These men are over 60, bald or totally gray with extra weight around the middle. I don't see them dancing with girls in their 20s; that is because young girls do not go to the milongas I attend. If you are in your 20s and want to find a younger crowd at the milongas in BsAs, go to La Estrella on Friday, or Almagro or La Catedral on Tuesday, or La Viruta on Saturday. You'll find the young guys there learning or dancing salon style. If you are over 50 (as I am), you probably want to dance with a man who will hold you in his arms and dance with feeling because he knows the music, the singers, the orchestras, and the lyrics. This takes a lifetime; young guys don't and can't know what a milonguero knows. Therefore, dancing with them can't be the same as dancing with a milonguero who has lived tango practically all his life. A friend from another country arrived in Buenos Aires recently for her second visit. She joined my boyfriend and me on Saturday night at our favorite milonga. She came with the right attitude. She sat with a smile on her face, ready to make eye contact for a tanda. She had a fabulous night of dancing with excellent partners. She didn't dance with just anyone, but was selective in making eye contact. It didn't hurt that she was seated at our table, but she had to still do her part while we were dancing. A friend wrote me that during her recent visit to Buenos Aires, she noticed that there were almost no women in the milongas with gray hair. She's quite right, so I recommended she consider coloring the gray before her next visit. There are men in the milongas of Buenos Aires who color their hair. I'm not ashamed to admit that my auburn hair came from a bottle. When I am asked by people here why I am living in Buenos Aires, I respond that I came because of the wonderful people I have met during my visits. I find everyone in Buenos Aires to be warm and friendly. There is a well-known tango tour organizer who hires Argentine assistants to dance with the ladies on his tours during the classes and milongas in BsAs. They are probably glad to have the work and the ladies are happy to be dancing. You can pay for private lessons in salon style with well-known teachers in Buenos Aires and never get to dance with them in a milonga because they don't go to them; or You can learn how tango is danced in the milongas by having an arrangement with a milonguero. Either way you are paying for a service. Why not learn to dance in a real-life situation rather than in an empty room?


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