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There are 5 messages totalling 319 lines in this issue. Topics of the day: 1. Too much of a good thing! Tango Congresses Galore! (2) 2. Tango Etiquette: The "Eye Game" 3. Re Meet in the Middle 4. Convert to digest


Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2000 08:55:48 EST From: Arthur Greenberg <AHGberg @AOL.COM> Subject: Too much of a good thing! Tango Congresses Galore! Hi Tangueros & Tangueras: It seems to me that there are "too many" "congresses and work shops" in such a short span of time for me to properly partake of. After attending scores of classes at the various congresses and "dancing the night away to live music" I am beginning to come to the conclusion that one needs to be more selective when it comes to attending all the the beautiful classes presented at the upcoming Tango Congresses that the current menu seems to offer to the tango dancing consumer. I must confess that I truly loved visiting Buenos Aires, the lovely home and origin of the Argentine Tango. The people (citizens of Argentina) were the best thing about the trip....social, helpful, friendly and accommodating. They made me feel right at home even though I spoke little Spanish and was a foreigner in their country! Unfortunately I stayed at what I considered to be one of the dirtiest hotels I have ever had the misfortune to check in to! It came highly recommended; also the 9 hour plane trip was almost too much to bear unless you booked in First Class. I needed two days to recover from the sleepless and uncomfortable flight. If I had my "druthers" the next time I visit Buenos Aires I would rent a room or suite of rooms and stay a month or two. I would visit the other parts of Argentina that so many of my Argentine friends have recommended. In my humble opinion, taking 25 or thirty hours of workshops and dancing till the early hours of the morning every night is/are too much for any normal person's mental and physical stamina. One needs more time to walk around Buenos Aires to see the sights more and not be in a Tango vacuum when you visit. Take a guided bus tour! Take a map with you! Get a guide book (here in the USA before you leave for Argentina. When you get to Buenos Aires take the time to get acquainted with the taxis and subway systems. I would avoid the buses as much as I could. Like bus transportation almost anywhere, it is slow, overcrowded and tedious! The subway system in Buenos Aires is marvelous! Be sure you know where you want to go. Get a map! Ask for directions before you get lost.....not after you get lost! Investigate the scores of reasonably priced restaurants with steaks and yes, salads. Familiarize yourself with the prices so you can avoid getting "suckered!" Most people are honest! There are few who might take advantage of you if you present yourself as an "unknowledgeable tourist"! If I could take lessons perpetually from Buenos Aires based teachers, Ernesto Carmona and his lovely partner, Norma Tomasi on a regular basis.....I could endure and would endure almost anything. Their Dance School is on Corrientes in Buenos Aires. He is definitely not a "fantasia" teacher. Just sound and beautiful Argentine Tango at its best! At reasonable rates! I would rank him up there with the top Tango Instructors in the world. If you go to Buenos Aires and Mr. Carmona is not teaching at the workshops.....go and visit him at his school. His approach to teaching Tango is "unique" and I really think you will miss something " unbelievably enlightening" if you do not take at least a dozen lessons from him. In the meanwhile here in the USA there are two....separate and distinct Miami Tango Congresses to choose from. It is difficult to compete with the high quality of the Miami hotels or the Florida weather. The beach! The pool! The sunny days where one can go around in light clothing and revel in the beautiful environment. One Tango Congress is organized and presented by Randy & Lydia! The other by Jorge Nel and Marta ( Marta and Lydia are sisters). It is unfortunate that the four who presented the First Miami Tango Congress a few years ago, are now in competition with each other and running two separate Tango Congress events. Here in Florida, our (the consumer) cup(s) runneth over. Two Tango Congresses in the same city. In my opinion, It is also unfortunate that Randy and Jorge, formerly good friends and close business associates, are now competitors and adversaries. Come on guys! If we can establish peace in the middle east and in Yugoslavia it would seem that it would not be too much for you guys, to get back together again and strengthen and improve the Miami Tango Community in the best interests of all involved. One super dynamite congress is all we need. So...........Whatever you do in the coming months, I wish all my friends and acquaintances across the country and around the world, more and better Argentine Tango. Hope to see you at the upcoming congresses! Do not wait for the last minute to register and reserve your rooms in the busy and thriving Miami Beach hotels. Where are my sun-glasses! I am going out in the sun and watch all the lovely bodies in their bikini bathing suits. (They (the bikinis) seem to be growing smaller each year!) Phew! Miami Beach! There is nothing like it! Put away your snow shovels and mittens and come on down! Sincerely, Arturo AHGberg @aol.com West Palm BEach, Florida, USA


Date: Sat, 22 Jan 2000 13:26:08 -0700 From: "Brian P. Dunn" <brianpdunn @EARTHLINK.NET> Subject: Tango Etiquette: The "Eye Game" Maureen, you raise several heartfelt questions. I wanted to address some of them, especially as they pertain to asking for a dance and accepting an invitation to dance... >>> Also, when my husband asks another lady to dance at the milonga (which is fine with me) do I sit alone while they are dancing (also fine with me) or is it the custom to arrange for me to join others during that time? <<< There is no custom that I'm aware of about joining others when one's partner is dancing with someone else. In a perfect world, at the moment your husband left you to dance elsewhere, another man would see his absence as an opening to ask you to dance. He might feel emboldened by your husband's departure, taking it as a signal that you are probably willing to accept his invitation in your husband's absence (in a milonga setting, it's useful to assume that everyone is watching everyone else, and that everyone sees everything). To the degree that it creates tension to watch your partner having fun while you are not, seeking out others is a way to alleviate this tension. It can, however, make it harder for someone to ask you to dance unless you continue to face the room and "watch everyone else (see below)." >>> I've also noticed that when a gentleman asks me to dance, he does not ask my husband's permission (in this liberated age this seems correct)nor even acknowledge that my husband is there (this strikes me as a bit rude, since we are clearly there together). <<< When accompanying two attractive women to milongas on my first trip to Buenos Aires, I found that men who wanted to dance with one of my companions would often approach me first with a look of inquiry. I assumed this was to invite me to respond with relaxed acquiescence or with some sign of tension indicating my opinion of whether the man should proceed to ask one of my companions to dance. These were younger Argentine men, 20-25 or so. The point on their side seemed to be to "avoid trouble" in case I was the jealous type. This felt to me like a genuine non-trivial interaction between us as men, not a lifeless pro-forma ritual. In the situation you describe, it seems more appropriate for the approaching potential partner to (in my acting teacher's words) "take in" both parties to the couple before asking the woman to dance. This might be simply making eye contact with both to acknowledge the presence of the relationship. Otherwise, the man's approach seems to me to have an aggressive, provocative edge. I think much of this behavior results from the fact that we don't have a culture oriented around social dance, and there is no consensus on these etiquette issues here. The Argentines, of course, went through a period in tango's "Golden Age" when virtually everybody danced. Although some traditions faded while tango became less popular during the military dictatorships, their cultural thinking on dance etiquette is still far more richly textured than ours. Issues of asking for dances and accepting with grace and consideration are frequently resolved through eye contact at a distance. One of my traveling companions, for example, made affirmative eye contact with another man, emboldening him to approach our table and interact with me on the assumption that his polite inquiry would meet with acceptance. At another time, my other companion found herself the center of a swirl of tension and hurt feelings at an Argentine milonga, because she had been nodding and smiling to a host of men who were trying to catch her eye at the time she was dancing with someone else. All of these men thought she was accepting the next dance with them! I try to do the "eye game" whenever I see a potential partner engaged in conversation with anyone, male or female. It involves placing myself within their field of vision and staring at them in hopes of catching their eye. If I catch their glance, I raise an eyebrow inquiringly, perhaps nodding my head in the direction of the dance floor. If I fail to catch their eye, or if I catch it and eye contact is quickly withdrawn by my prospective partner, I don't pursue the invitation further at that time, nor do I take offense; perhaps the conversation is more important to them at the time. Although this "eye game" is not as widely practiced here, it offers several benefits in the situation you describe with your husband. If you make "affirmative eye contact" with another man while sitting with your table partner, perhaps with a slight nod or a smile, you communicate your willingness to dance with him perhaps even while you are engaged in a conversation with your table partner. If you observe him beginning to approach your table, you can gracefully excuse yourself from your conversation while you rise to approach your new partner. Your new partner observes you rising to meet him, and so he need not "confront" your table partner at all. Sometimes it feels appropriate to make eye contact with the "bereft" table partner as a way of saying "pardon me" from a distance. A woman wishing to be asked to dance might adopt a "scan the room" look where her glance sweeps her field of vision slowly, looking nowhere in particular, while men might stare at her to "pose the question". If she doesn't want to dance with a particular individual, she sweeps past his glance, locking eyes only with someone with whom she would like to dance. As long as the men understand the code, no one will bother her unless she "invites" it first. This avoids the need to publicly refuse someone (with attendant damage to delicate male egos) while reserving the control of the interaction for the woman. Because of the discreet and private nature of the eye contact, it also allows women to solicit a dance from a man without risk as well, and for men to accept or decline such an invitation. So, if you go off to find a conversation when your husband leaves to dance elsewhere, try to face the floor and keep scanning the room for invitations! Brian Dunn Boulder, Colorado


Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2000 12:38:58 -0600 From: Karen Whitesell <kglass @IPA.NET> Subject: Re Meet in the Middle Dear List, Many thanks to the many friends who answered with words of encouragement. Offering my place to come and tango was by no means trying to compete with the established tango weeks. I, too, have experienced the magic of Miami,... and Stanford,...and Santa Fe... But those are once a year happenings, I'm wanting to dance everyday if I want, so am creating that place here at home. Mt Vernon has no grand hotels or fancy feasts found on cruises. I WILL have a balcony to dance on, and in the dark, who is to know it over looks the feed store across the way. I think dancing is the main entree, and I'm never too bored of tango to want to see any side attractions when I travel. As for interesting things here close, there is Branson, where you can see staged hillbillies. Branson is the largest drive to vacation in the U.S., next to Disney World. Soon, I will be able to offer drive by tango! I can show you cows. Mt Vernon and surrounding Lawrence County has the largest beef production in MO, and MO is second only to Texas. Beef is one part of Agriculture that makes agriculture and ag related products the largest industry in the U.S., contributing to 17% of its GNP. Argentina is also an agribased economy, but you have to get out of Buenos Aires to see this. So, I will welcome you to the heartland, and I'm not competing for your milonga money. Robinne's idea to get together was just an opportunity to introduce my project. Pictures are in the planning for a web site. Until then, dance one for me, Karen


Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2000 17:31:47 -0500 From: Melinda Bates <tangerauna @EARTHLINK.NET> Subject: Re: Too much of a good thing! Tango Congresses Galore! While I agree with almost all of Arthur's happy observations about tango, there is one where I think he is missing important issues. Arthur said: > "It seems to me that there are "too many" "congresses and work shops" in > such a short span of time for me to properly partake of> > (stuff deleted) > In the meanwhile here in the USA there are two....separate and distinct > Miami Tango Congresses to choose from......One Tango Congress is organized and presented by Randy & Lydia! The other by Jorge Nel and Marta ( Marta and Lydia are > sisters). ..... It is unfortunate that the four who presented the First Miami > Tango Congress a few years ago, are now in competition with each other and > running two separate Tango Congress events... In my opinion, It is also unfortunate that Randy and Jorge, formerly good friends and close business associates, are now competitors and adversaries. Come on guys! .... it would seem that it would not be too much for you guys, to get back together again and strengthen and improve the Miami Tango Community in the best interests of all involved. One super dynamite congress is all we need." This breach beteen sisters and former friends is unfortunate - but not any of our business. I'm surprised to see it as a topic on the list. What I do know is that my schedule never permitted me to attend the one congress organized by Jorge and Randy together, and it was not until Randy offered an alternative that we could participate in this great event. We had a fantastic time last May! Also, if you look closely at the teacher list and proposed schedules, you will find two very different events. You can decide for yourself which YOU think is better or more interesting, but having the choice is a GOOD thing for tango. As long as the organizers can fill their slots to at least break even, I hope they will continue to offer this choice. (And how I wish all tango event organizers could actually make money at it!) Arthur, you're right about Miami Beach - I wish I could hop on a plane today and find myself walking barefoot in the warm sand! How about dancing salsa tonight in South Beach ..... home of the most beautiful women in the world! You are a lucky man. Cheers! Melinda


Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2000 15:43:39 -0800 From: Ronnie McCullough <ronnie @SONIC.NET> Subject: Convert to digest We would like to convert from TANGO-L to the Digest version. Thanks Jim and Ronnie McCullough Happy to be living & working in Sebastopol Jim & Ronnie at clan Mc


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