Re: [TANGO-L] Perfect Apilado Position

[Dani Iannarelli <dani@tango-la-dolce-vita.com>]

Hear, Hear, Deby!
  Excellent!

  You've said everything exactly as I've felt, which is why I often cut down a lot of these senseless analyses with some humour. I can't be bothered with all this 'that foot should be precisely there, while this hand should be at 61.5 degrees in relation to that toe etc etc etc. What a load of bull.

Enjoy the dance. Do it the way you see fit. What's right for you is best for you.

  I still prefer the missionary position, though. . . >:-)))))

  Regards

  Dani


Deby Novitz <dnovitz@LAVIDACONDEBY.COM> wrote:
  OK I almost never email this forum. So here is my two cents. Please
don4't flame, because really I don't care if you agree or disagree with
me. I used to live in San Francisco. After 18 trips to BA in 4 years I
decided to move here permanently. I have lived here for over a year. It
doesn't make me better or worse than anyone else on this forum. It just
means I live here. I echo Barbara Garvey, why do you guys have to
dissect every move in this dance? Relax and just enjoy. Tango is a
social dance, not a scientific experiment or a computer program. It is
a dance of the heart, not the brain. When people here ask me if I
teach, I tell them, no, I dance for my heart. That is enough. People
know what I mean.

For those of you in suspense - we don't talk about close/apilado blah
blah blah. Here you either dance the way the argentines dance or you
dance the way the foreigners dance. (open I suppose) Where your cheek
goes is personal preference. How the woman wraps her arm is her choice.
There are no rules, period. As for balance and axis, you maintain
your own, leader or follower. If you don4t have balance you are heavy
and difficult to dance with. If you are "leaning against" the other
person for your balance you make it very difficult to enjoy the dance.
A woman who leans against the man is hard to move. Men usually use
their hand. (Marca con el mano is a BIG no no) It is uncomfortable.
Women either break the man's neck, men blow away our shoulders. So much
better when you maintain your own sense and come together with someone else.

The so called lean you talk about actually comes from your posture,
balance, and axis. I control how much or little I lean by who I am
dancing with and the music that is playing. I probably cannot explain
this as well as needed, but the nicest thing a man can say to a woman is
"tu abrazo es muy dulce." The embrace is just that - an embrace. You
dont fall all over someone when you hug them, the same is true in tango.

OK nuf said. Besos from Buenos Aires...and just go dance. It's more fun.

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