Re: [TANGO-L] "Close Embrace All the Time People are at it again in Missouri and elsewhere"..Truth is that they cannot dance tango with most people in the world..so why would one want to learn this stuff being sold as sex...

["Christopher L. Everett" <ceverett@CEVERETT.COM>]

Derik Rawson wrote:

> Dear All:
>
> I am really getting tired of hearing people selling
> "close embrace all the time" as sex.
And then in his response to Lois Donnay's post, he writes:

> A woman leading the dance is not the same experience
> as a man leading the dance.
Who specifically would you say is, 'selling "close embrace
all the time" as sex'?  I suspect that the "Swedish bikini
team" approach to marketing tango has yet to be tried.
Maybe that's what they're up to with those scanty costumes
stage dancers wear ...

And if you compare the 2 emails, then you see a pretty big
inconsistency between the two.

I've seen tango described as intimate, but then 2 5-year
olds sitting together on a playground swing are having a
fairly intimate experience too.

I have also heard it said many times that the highest level
tango ever got to was when men danced together on a regular
basis in BsAs.  Funny, that we don't see a gigantic rush of
men learning to follow, except among the serious students
of the dance.  Gee, I wonder why?  Maybe it was the cheapest
sport in town in the way back then.

What I do know for sure is that if tango didn't represent an
opportunity for men and women to interact in a positive way,
and perhaps even to hook up the scene would never have taken
off to begin with, even back in the 1880's.

Sex is such a part of being human (QUICK: don't think of pink
elephants in tutu), any time you have two humans interacting,
sex is a major consideration, regardless of their genders.  All
we can do is to be responsible for that part of ourselves and
behave gracefully and considerately in terms of not imposing
ourselves an our values on others.

Christopher