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Re: [TANGO-L] Teachers who lead and follow



Dear Lois:

Who drives the car is not important if you get where
you are going.  What is important for the follower is
the the total tango experience.  A woman leading the
dance is not the same experience as a man leading the
dance.  It may be a cool thing for a woman to lead or
a man to follow, but it is totally different, and it
always will be.  These are not equal things, even
though they can be cool things.  I enjoy them every
once in awhile, just like I enjoy close embrace, every
once in a while, but not all the time....lol.

Derik
d.rawson@rawsonweb.com


--- Lois Donnay <donnay@DONNAY.NET> wrote:

> Last night I was at a salsa venue and I saw a woman
> leading another woman in
> salsa - she was really good! I was sitting next to
> another salsa teacher,
> and he was watching closely. When the song was over,
> he ran over and asked
> the woman to dance - but to lead him! I thought that
> was fantastic!
>
> In the professional level of ballroom dance
> instruction, all teachers lead
> and follow. There is no question that a professional
> teacher would not be
> competent in both roles. I see this less in
> non-professional teachers, and
> have rarely seen this in salsa until last night.
>
> This brought me to a question - when you pick a
> teacher do you verify that
> they can do both roles? Is it important to you?
>
> I am also constantly surprised by women who whisper
> to me after a dance
> "That was really good! Better than most of the men!"
> I think first of all
> that they don't need to whisper - are men's egos
> really that delicate? And
> also, shouldn't I, as a teacher, be expected to be
> one of the best leaders?
>
> Oh, yes - in the myth-busting mode - last time I was
> in Buenos Aires I led
> my male partner (an Argentine) at a regular milonga
> and was not immediately
> thrown out into the street. As a matter of fact, the
> people who saw us loved
> it!
>
> Lois Donnay
> Minneapolis, MN 55408
> www.mndance.com
>
>
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