Re: [TANGO-L] Close Embrace All the Time People

[Lois Donnay <donnay@DONNAY.NET>]

I had a similar experience with a man who only dances salon. He told me he
had never danced close before and doesn't with anyone else. We started out
dancing salon, but drifted into close embrace. Now when he and I dance, we
dance close. It's great.

When I'm in Bs.As, I find some men start out in close, but go into open with
me once they find out I'm a good follower. I think it's like taking the
sports car out onto the open road to see how much you can get out of it.

Lois
Minneapolis

> > I first noticed this last year when a gentleman who
> > greatly preferred salon to milonguero asked me to
> > dance at a milonga.  Rather than dance salon,
> however,
> > he danced milonguero style since he knew that was my 
> preferred style.  
> > I thought it was so sweet of him, especially in the 10 years that I 
> > have known him, I never even knew that he studied any milonguero (he
> > lives in another city).
> >
> > Although I really appreciated his efforts, I
> couldn't
> > help but feel that he wasn't free to be who he was,
> to
> > share his own feelings in the dance.  Because of
> that
> > I felt a little trapped myself.  We still had an
> > enjoyable dance, but I would have liked to have
> given
> > him a "wow" dance, not just a "nice" dance.
> >
> > Since then, I have tried harder to help my partner
> > dance as true to himself/herself as much as
> possible.
> > My joy from tango comes from learning about my
> partner
> > and sharing an honest conversation.  Which means
> that
> > if a persons only way of conversing with me is
> > open-embrace, then we dance open.  If his/her only
> way
> > is in close, then we dance close.  And who knows, I
> > just might learn something.
> >
> > The converse of that is that if I am not able to
> give
> > my partner a meaningful dance, then it is better
> that
> > I dont dance with them.  That is simply because I
> do
> > not want to give them a bad dance and I never want
> to
> > resent dancing with them.
> >
> > A few thoughts,
> > Trini de Pittsburgh
> >
> >
> > PATangoS - Pittsburgh Argentine Tango Society
> > Our Mission: To make Argentine Tango Pittsburgh's
> most popular social dance.
> > http://www.pitt.edu/~mcph/PATangoWeb.htm
> >
> >
> >
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