Re: [TANGO-L] Close Embrace All the Time People

["Trini y Sean (PATangoS)" <patangos@YAHOO.COM>]

Hi all!

First, thanks to everyone for sharing their thoughts
on the molinete and bringing up so many different
aspects.  I want to experiment a bit further before I
comment on that thread.

But heres an easy thread to which to respond.  From
Derik:
"My view is that tango is primarily a social dance and
one should be able to dance immediately with 'anyone'
who walks in the room."

As I have explored the different styles and worked on
musicality, I have come to really appreciate the
honesty my dance partners have shared with me.  By
that, I mean, their being authentic to themselves, to
their tastes, to their preferences in music and
movement.  When my partners are honest with themselves
and with me, we have a more meaningful conversation.
So a gancho means more than just a gancho  its
becomes a means for intimacy (not sex, but intimacy).


I first noticed this last year when a gentleman who
greatly preferred salon to milonguero asked me to
dance at a milonga.  Rather than dance salon, however,
he danced milonguero style since he knew that was my
preferred style.  I thought it was so sweet of him,
especially in the 10 years that I have known him, I
never even knew that he studied any milonguero (he
lives in another city).

Although I really appreciated his efforts, I couldn't
help but feel that he wasn't free to be who he was, to
share his own feelings in the dance.  Because of that
I felt a little trapped myself.  We still had an
enjoyable dance, but I would have liked to have given
him a "wow" dance, not just a "nice" dance.

Since then, I have tried harder to help my partner
dance as true to himself/herself as much as possible.
My joy from tango comes from learning about my partner
and sharing an honest conversation.  Which means that
if a persons only way of conversing with me is
open-embrace, then we dance open.  If his/her only way
is in close, then we dance close.  And who knows, I
just might learn something.

The converse of that is that if I am not able to give
my partner a meaningful dance, then it is better that
I dont dance with them.  That is simply because I do
not want to give them a bad dance and I never want to
resent dancing with them.

A few thoughts,
Trini de Pittsburgh


PATangoS - Pittsburgh Argentine Tango Society
Our Mission: To make Argentine Tango Pittsburgh's most popular social dance.
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