[TANGO-L] seduction or imposition

[A Coleman <gurps_npc @HOTMAIL.COM>]

First, to the women that think it is OK, to really like dancing with a man,
but not date him.

One of you mentioned scent.    Men can change their scent.  Tell the guy and
he can change get collogne, or perhaps stop using it.   For ages, men have
been accused of being shallow creatures, ony interested in shallow things,
while women claim to have better guidelines.  I used to believe that.  But
from my experience with women, they are far shallower then men, when it
comes to dating.   The most common reason one is height - worse, many will
dance with a short man, but not date him.

I am not saying what you are doing is wrong, or that you should be dating
those men, they could be slime bags.      What I am saying is that if he
REALLY is so bad that you won't even give him a single date as a chance to
prove he is the Mr. Right, then why are you dancing with him?   He wants you
for your body, you want him for his dance moves, but you seem to be getting
what you want, while he goes home unfullfilled.

You don't have to date every guy or any guy that asks you to dance, but if
you are single, straight and like the guy enough to dance with, you should
have a better reason than mere height or scent to refuse to give him a
chance.   One date is not too much of your time to spend with a guy that you
enjoy dancing with.

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The other part is the sexual contact.

Yes, some men don't get enough sensual contact in their life.  If they have
no morals, they go to a prostitue.  But if they do have morals, they
sometimes go looking for it on the dance floor.  The men are generally not
slime bags, instead they are simply lonely and desperate, often because
women have treated them poorly (Like say refusing to even talk to them cause
they are short and have bad taste in collogne.)

Some women also go looking for sensual contact on the dance floor.

The difference however is this:

The men tend to be doing it are single, and shy.  They go to dance in the
hope of meeting someone.

Single Women don't have this problem, because when they want some sensual
contact, they go to a single's bar and get whatever sensual contact they
desire, usually from the best looking, most in demand man they can find, who
did the same thing every day last week.

But some women do look for the sensual contact.  The women doing it are
MARRIED.  They don't want to take it any further than dance, and instead of
leaving their asexual marriage or trying to fix their marriage, they go to
Tango to get what they want.   I pity them.  They need a dose of courage.

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So before you get all rude to the men, keep in mind that unlike you, they
can not simply go out and get the release they need.  Chances are, they
might have gone YEARS without even cuddling with a women.  They quite
probably have not had a women 1/2 as lovely as you ever consider them.  And
keep in mind that there are women out there just as desperate as the men.